# Common Myths and Misconceptions About BDSM

> Most of what you've been told about BDSM with total confidence is wrong, including some of what you might believe about yourself. Here is where the stereotypes come from, and what actually holds up.

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## Scope

This page covers: bdsm myths and misconceptions.
Also addresses: common bdsm misconceptions; bdsm stereotypes; myths about bdsm.
Not covered here (see the linked pages instead): what is bdsm; bdsm vs abuse; bdsm psychology; kink vs fetish.

## Key concepts

- BDSM
- stereotypes
- consent
- dominance
- submission
- trauma
- pathology

## Sections

- Myths about what BDSM even is (https://classic-bdsm.com/learn/bdsm-myths-and-misconceptions/#myths-about-what-bdsm-even-is)
- Myths about dominance and control (https://classic-bdsm.com/learn/bdsm-myths-and-misconceptions/#myths-about-dominance-and-control)
- Myths about submission and weakness (https://classic-bdsm.com/learn/bdsm-myths-and-misconceptions/#myths-about-submission-and-weakness)
- Myth: BDSM is just abuse with better branding (https://classic-bdsm.com/learn/bdsm-myths-and-misconceptions/#the-abuse-myth)
- Myth: an interest like this means you're damaged (https://classic-bdsm.com/learn/bdsm-myths-and-misconceptions/#the-trauma-myth)
- Why these stereotypes stick around (https://classic-bdsm.com/learn/bdsm-myths-and-misconceptions/#why-stereotypes-persist)
- A better question than "is this BDSM" (https://classic-bdsm.com/learn/bdsm-myths-and-misconceptions/#a-better-way-to-evaluate-a-dynamic)

## Sources referenced

- Sexual Abuse — Cara R. Dunkley & Lori A. Brotto, "The Role of Consent in the Context of BDSM" (https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31010393/)
- Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy — Cara R. Dunkley & Lori A. Brotto, "Clinical Considerations in Treating BDSM Practitioners: A Review" (https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29543573/)
- The Journal of Sex Research — Jaime M. Brown, Meg-John Barker & Qazi Rahman, "A Systematic Scoping Review of the Prevalence, Etiological, Psychological, and Interpersonal Factors Associated with BDSM" (https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31617765/)

Last reviewed: 2026-08-31